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Dear Mistress Tadashii,
I am submissive to my dominant girlfriend. And here is my question/issue. She loves to use her strap-on which always puts me in deep subspace. As she puts it, I look very dreamy afterward. At the same time, however, she loves penetration, including having me on top. But the more she uses the strap-on the less capable I am of penetration and the less interested I become in it. Is this usual? And is there anything to be done about it. I want to please her in any way I can but strap-on sex leaves me too submissive to penetrate her.
Ludic, United States
Ludic,
It is indeed common, and it is a problem I hear submissive men come up against very often. I find that often the way round an psychological issue like this is to decide to visualise it differently in your head. If your girlfriend was more aggressive and she demanded in no uncertain terms that you fuck her or suffer the consequences, would that make you more able to comply? I would imagine so. Seeing her as a mercenary, aggressive woman who has needs you exist to fulfil, will help you to be able to serve her.
If your girlfriend behaves in a submissive way when you penetrate her, you will feel forced into a dominant role you are not comfortable with, and the chances are that you will not be able to maintain an erection. If this is the case, explaining this to her may help.
If, however, you both realise that she is in control whether she is penetrating you or you are penetrating her, and she behaves according to her status as your superior, then you will have less difficulty performing to her standards.
My advice would be to her; that she only uses her strap-on on you if (and only if) you have served her well and pleased her. She enjoys giving you pleasure, which is fine, but she needs to realise that any sexual pleasure you receive, such as penetration by her, should be earned by providing nothing less than perfect service. You should only receive that pleasure if she decides that you deserve it.
If you find you simply cannot serve her in this way, it may be a question of compatibility. She wants it. If you are not able to provide her with what she expects and deserves, you may not be the right man for her. Some women do not require penetrative sex and prefer oral service. However, many dominant women, particularly those who wish to enjoy intimate, loving relationships with their subs and slaves, do expect a full sexual service including penetrative sex.
Mistress Tadashii
Dear Mistress Tadashii,
First please forgive me I am not
the best speller and this is the longest
letter Ive written in a long time!
I would like to respond to an articel
on your blog about women making best
bosses and get your advice.
A little backround; I work for a
fairely big company, a magazine publisher.
I have worked here for over 25 years
as a janitor. When I first started,
it was mostly men who worked here.
A few ladies were secrateries. Today
women run the company, the president,
vice president, and on. They hire
mostly ladies too. Most of them are
young and beutiful, so I don't mind
like some other guys do! My new boss
is only34 years old and she is gorgeous.
I think the ladies and my boss treat
me better that the men ever did.When
I clean there offices real good, they
give me nice complaments. When I got
my boss coffee and the other ladies,
too, they call me a real sweet heart
and a doll. They say I am the perfect
man. So I do it almost everyday, especialy
for their meetings. I clean up after
their meetings now too. My boss gave
me a new title "maintenance engineer
and office assistant" and says
she is real proud of me.
I feel fullfilled when I serve these
ladies, I cannot help it. But my buddy
from maintenance says they are a bunch
of women libbers and they are just
useing me cause im a little slow.
He said beware of female supremecy,
they really hate men (half joking).
So I looked it up on the internet
and found your site.I read some of
your aritcles about female supremcy
and dominance. I must admit I cannot
understand all your big words (I am
not the smartest guy and probably
only a woman could understand them).
But after reading I see that women
like you and my boss are naterully
superior to men like me. I figure
wy fight it and you dont hate men
after all.
Here is where I need your advice.
Do you think I’m doing the right thing
by serving the ladies in the office?
Or is it really demeaning like my
friend says. Should I do more? Do
you think I need to go through Female
Authority training or am I already
trained enough? I do not know the
first thing about having a misstress
(i am single) and im not sure if that
kind of relationship interests me.
I do know this. I really feel good
about working for a women boss and
your website has taught me more about
my feelings. I would be very thankfull
for any advice you could give me.
Thank you, and bless you,
Howard
Howard,
Are you doing the right thing by serving
these ladies? Absolutely. You are doing
what comes naturally, serving superior
ladies. Although I do not know the details
I suspect that your friend, deep-down,
is jealous of your servitude and wishes
that he could serve your ladies too
(Although he will not admit it).
Should I do more? You should do everything
in your power to ensure you are serving
to the best of your abilities. I recommend
that you think up new ways you could
be of service and suggest them one at
a time to your superiors, or perhaps
ask them how you could be of more use
to them to make their lives easier.
Be careful not to be intrusive or self-serving
- remember you exist to serve them,
they do not exist to fulfil your fantasies.
Perhaps you could run personal errands
for them, take care of personal business
whilst they are busy at work or perhaps
you should consider giving up your free
time in the evenings in order to benefit
them. Do I need to go through the LFA
Training? - that will depend on whether
you want to serve a Dominant woman full
time? If the answer is yes then the
training would be ideal. Good luck Howard
and let me know how you progress.
Mistress Tadashii
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